069. redefining masculinity in professional sports and lead with compassion with Mikey Vong Lay [Day 5 of 12DoBT'22]

Dec 17

Men have feelings too, and they need to know they can express it safely and meet themselves with compassion. Hear how you can cultivate compassion as you cultivate your skills from a black-belt professional Brazilian Jiu Jitsu competitor & coach.

This episode will cover:

🎁 Conditioning men receive that block them from their emotions

🎁 Going against cultural expectations that don’t serve you

🎁 How to be confident without arrogance & humble without imposter syndrome

🎁 Leading a community with compassion that goes beyond the competition

(00:01:21) cultural conditioning around expressing emotions as the eldest male in a first-gen Asian-Australian household

(00:07:42) the journey to learning how to allow and process emotions

(00:10:21) "there's always someone who has it worse" - gratitude as a tool to gaslight yourself vs. lift yourself up

(00:15:03) the antithesis to "someone has it worse than you" & cultivating true gratitude

(00:17:02) lessons from jiu jitsu & re-evaluating respect in filial piety and sport hierchies

(00:22:12) keeping your ego, arrogance, and imposter syndrome in check in a competitive sport environment

(00:27:24) the importance of being compassionate in martial arts

(00:31:18) how to stop focusing on other people & compete against yourself & when you know you're not trying

(00:37:05) the importance of expressing "i don't know," skill mastery, and humility

(00:49:02) how Mikey came into jiujitsu as a career

(00:57:51) expressing vulnerability & compassion - you're not alone in your feelings or failures

(01:04:32) vulnerability is not a weakness & your dreams are worthy

Mikey Vong Lay is a Brazillian Jiu jitsu black belt. He’s competed at many high level tournaments including but not limited to the asian open, pan-american, and world championships. Aside from competitions Mikey is a jiujitsu coach and has been since he was a blue belt. Mikey comes from a large first gen Asian-Australian family so taking this career path was definitely unconventional, but he’s so grateful to be doing it.

Connect with Mikey on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/migspec

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